June 9th, 2010 
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The Edge is a term that describes one’s way of coming across or managing — firm/expectant, but not a jerk. When you have The Edge, others respect you and respond to you; you are not ignored.
1. Make direct requests that are specific.
2. Communicate your concerns sooner than usual.
3. Ask directly what the other person is “doing” with/to you in that moment.
4. Tell others what you need them to do — don’t assume they know; don’t protect them from what you want.
5. Tell others how you feel that they need to change/grow — be very, very specific and charge neutral.
6. Get the person to think MUCH bigger about themselves/goals/life, without belittling their life now.
7. Educate others on what it takes for people to play in YOUR sandbox. Ask them to make these changes.
8. Tell them what they are doing; label their behavior, without being righteous.
9. Force/draw the truth out of the person if they are resisting, denying, delaying, manipulating.
10. Have an edge to your voice that commands attention.
Thomas J. Leonard, often known as the father of coaching, passed away suddenly on February 11th, 2003. His seemingly endless ideas included the creation of CoachVille, and the International Coach Federation, as well as numerous books, teleclasses, programs, and workshops on coaching. One of Thomas’ signature creative structures were these top ten lists, a way of organizing his thoughts in an easy to read format. Visit Best of Thomas to learn more about the many different works of Thomas Leonard
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