There are plenty of classes on how to listen better, but not many of them cover how to make sure that the person you are listening to actually feels heard. Feeling heard is a level beyond just being listened to and few humans truly hear — and cause the other person to feel heard. Yet, we humans think that we do listen well. Perhaps, but few of us hear well. And few of the people that we are listening to/hearing actually feel heard.

Sometimes when trying to help we can make things worse without meaning too. Many common expressions of support are actually subtle criticisms, judgements, or “digs” that can actually hurt the other person. Try not to use these ten phrases when trying to help.

Sometimes when trying to help we can make things worse without meaning too. Many common expressions of support are actually subtle criticisms, judgements, or “digs” that can actually hurt the other person. Try not to use these ten phrases when trying to help.

The Edge is a term that describes one’s way of coming across or managing — firm/expectant, but not a jerk. When you have The Edge, others respect you and respond to you; you are not ignored.

The more context you provide to another, the faster they will absorb new content. And, during periods of rapid change, additional context is needed to reassure, anchor and condition so that this change is embraced vs feared. This List could also be called “Top 10 Ways to Get People to Make Changes.”

Correcting someone is often a touchy situation that requires a great deal of tact. These ten phrases may not work in every situation, but they are a helpful start for correcting with grace.

Attraction is the idea that we all draw things, people, opportunities and even our ‘higher’ selves to us. The trick is to attract the best of these, not everything. Along that line, here are some of the things that limit or slow down one’s natural attractive powers.

A brief top ten from Thomas that is packed full of simple wisdom that can make a big difference in your life. Having trouble keeping your word? The ten benefits given in this top ten can help motivate you.

Can a top ten about the stock market from 1997 be useful you may ask? Some of Thomas’ points are specific to the time period, but this top ten list is a perfect example of how some lessons and experiences are timeless. Pick out what works for you from this top ten.

Most people spend a great deal of time and energy trying to achieve financial independence. What happens once you get there? How do your views of yourself, your family, your life, and the world change? Some of the realizations of the financially independent are unexpected, so get a head start with this top ten.

When trying to lose weight people often jump on the latest and greatest diet, lose a bunch of weight, then wonder why they gain it all back later. Maintaining your new weight is about more than the latest fad, and this top ten can help.

Are you fueling your life with adrenaline? Check out this top ten for Thomas’ view on the signs of adrenaline addiction. If you answer yes to too many of the points in this top ten ask yourself if it is sustainable.

Do you live your life based on what you believe? Are you even sure you know what you believe? This top ten presents the beliefs that Thomas used to guide his life. After reading try creating your own list of beliefs and start trying to live by them. Is there a difference?

Goal setting is easy right? Read this top ten and gain a new perspective at exactly how in depth a process goal setting can be. Add a few of these strategies to your own goal setting and see what happens.

Thomas was continuously learning through his own writing, teaching his classes, and working with his R&D team. Thomas’ goal was for all of us to realize our education was never complete and we should be continuously learning. This top ten is incomplete and waiting for input from the Thomas community; can you think of two more ways to continuously learn?

There are many approaches to becoming aware. Start with accepting that you are clueless and that this thing called awareness exists. Then use the rest of this top ten list for strategies on gaining awareness.